As children we are dominated by desires for ATTENTION and AFFECTION.
The basic problem with humanity is as children we get either too much or too little of this attention and affection.
When we are children we are VICTIMS. When we are adults, we are VOLUNTEERS.
As adults if we recognize that a behavior is wrong… The recommended action is to stop that action, and forgive yourself for being human.
Forgiveness and compassion of self is the greatest of gifts.
If we treated other people the way we treat ourselves we probably would have no friends.