Not quite sure if I have this right, however; I grew up, taught by a generation who seemed to believe that there were benefits in learning things ‘the hard way.’
They lacked the desire to share the wisdom of their experiences.
“Let him find out the hard way. ”
I heard this often.
Maybe being hardened and conditioned by war does that. Or maybe it was just the lot that I was around as a kid.
Or maybe it was just all me, not wanting to listen and they were just struggling to know how to handle that.
The lines of communication are open between me and my kid and I have no desire for her to face this world, ‘The Hard Way. ‘
For her part, she listens to what I have to say and seems to incorporate that into making up her mind.